THE ENNEAGRAM - From a Type Nine

What is this thing

this thing that says I’m

a “Preservationist”

a “Peacemaker”

a “Mediator”

a type 9?

What is it all about?

I questioned it with doubt.

It knew all my secrets

All the little bits and pieces

Of my personality

Things I didn’t want to see

It knew I loved being lazy

Even though I stayed very busy

And that I accomplished and achieved

But when work was done I was so relieved

To know I could be

            Just me

I needed to learn more

            About this thing called an enneagram

            learn more about myself

            about things I never realized

but somehow always knew

about things I’d never named

but recognized when I heard it

            More and more and more about me

                        The me I wanted to

                                    Just be
 

I learned

            How I delude myself

            How strong my drive to avoid conflict

            How passively aggressive I am

                        I knew

                       It was true

How I am un-self-conscious

            And have always found

            Ways and reasons

            To not think about myself

                        I knew

                        It was true

How I avoid my own anger

and how important it is

                        to keep the peace

And how I don’t like

                        negative feelings

                        so much so that

                        I detach from myself

                        by ‘numbing out’

                                    which is withdrawing

                                    into a sleep

                                    deep inside myself

                                    where, neither you, nor anyone else

                                                can get me

                        A place where I can be

                                    peaceful, calm and safe

                                    And I can just

                                               be me

And I knew

It was true

So here it was

My wake up call

            Come you type 9

            Stop self forgetting

            Wake up to who you are

            Observe yourself

            Be present, in the moment

            Get angry, in the moment

            No matter how frightening

            I need to start ‘fighting’            

                        You know that’s right

                        And I knew

                        It was all true

And then came our holy idea

            Our essence

What the entire process

Of learning and experiencing

The enneagram

Is really all about

 

This is the point and purpose

Of the journey I’ve been on

            …to touch my essence

Unconditional love

                        Holy love

An essence that I’ve always known

            I’ve experienced it

            I have felt it deep inside

            And now, I’ve come home

                        to my essence

            And what a beautiful place

and space that is to be

            Where love

and faith

and hope reside

            Somewhere deep down inside

                        where I can find

the Divine

                        and I can be

                                    just me

Thank you

Carole, Gloria and fellow students

For leading me to that place.

by Judy Shoob

Join us October 11 for an Enneagram Salon Event

As an organization the Arizona Enneagram Association is at another point of transformation.  Many of you know that our Founding Board Members are moving on to new adventures. They will still be active members of the association, but in the practical world they will no longer run the day to day show. We know that our Founding Mothers will continue to support and nurture the organization they brought into existence. 

This is a shift. As a community of practitioners we desire to ground ourselves in our precious history. And from this grounded presence open to new possibilities.

All possibilities involve questions. How can we attract young people to begin this work early in their lives?  How can we attract more men?  How can we bring diversity to our organization?  Where do we want to focus our energy in our community? How can we better support ourselves and each other in our own transformation?

To get this conversation going we are offering you a time to visit, to enjoy a good meal and share your ideas and open heart. Our intent is that this evening will provide the space for us to connect and allow fresh answers to arise.

Please join our Salon Saturday October 11, 2014 - all members and the general public interested in an Enneagram conversation are welcome to attend this free event.

You might wonder -- what exactly is a salon? Wikipedia of course has an excellent definition: A salon is a gathering of people under the roof of an inspiring host, held partly to amuse one another and partly to refine the taste and increase the knowledge of the participants through conversation. These gatherings often consciously followed Horace's definition of the aims of poetry, "either to please or to educate" ("aut delectare aut prodesse est"). Salons, commonly associated with French literary and philosophical movements of the 17th and 18th centuries, were carried on until quite recently in urban settings.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Salon_(gathering)

 Evening schedule as follows:
            6 - 7pm Happy Hour - heavy Hors' d'oeuvres and drinks
            7 pm - Followed by an open conversation about the AEA's vision and work, and our stories of transformation.

We need a food count so please register at http://events.constantcontact.com/register/event?llr=5mox5fdab&oeidk=a07e9saa16e6e404427 

or contact Chris Power at chrispower64@gmail.com

 Invitation by the Arizona Enneagram Association

OUT OF THE BOX . . . from a Type 1

I got stuck again in the box of my own mind.  Habit-of-mind is unique to each of us, yet follows the pattern of our personality.  (See Arizona Enneagram Association)

My name is Diane, and my Habit is Perfectionism.
About 1 in 9 of us have this core habit – the other 8 get to have something else.
My mind nags: “Gotta fix this, inside me or outside.  Things are not good enough.”
But they are good enough!  It’s just a scratchy old recording, telling me otherwise, and it’s untrue.  Why do I listen to it?
I deeply appreciate everybody and everything in my life – – except when I don’t.

I lose sight.  I slip-slide down the ungrateful path, the critical path.  Unappreciative.
My Inner Critic is tenacious and persistent, whispering those old Nothings.
The Critic lures me, unawares, into a box.
It makes me think I’m in charge of the world and I must get perfection.

It paints a beautiful perfect picture, unreal, on the floor of this box. And in I go!  Entranced by the glory of perfection, that pure fiction.  The image painted there.  I take the bait.  I’m hooked.
As I hook into my Habit-of-Mind, my Critic ever so softly shuts the box,trapping me inside. I barely notice, because this is me, my usual place, my fallback, my power and control, my ego at work. Getting it perfect is my job, after all.
I’m engaging the fake perfect picture.
Gotta get it right.
Be the best.
If it’s worth doing, it’s worth doing right.
Righteous.  Self-righteous.  Virtuous.
Lemme tell you a thing or two (says my blind arrogance).
Darkness spreads in the closed-up box, but I press on.
I pour on my gleam.  I can do this, I’m a saint.
Working the situation.  Pushing the river.
I still can’t see how fake the picture is, how it’s only a layer of paint, an illusion.
By now I’m licking the paint, that’s how much I believe in the picture.

But my belly begins to feel this place is no fun.  It’s isolated.  It’s dry and empty, and I can’t find a way out.
I mistakenly slipped into solitary confinement – – because, you see, I’m so damn good!
Yet I still can’t get it perfect enough.  Frustration. Irritation. Can we say Anger?

Anger helps me discover I’m trapped.  Caught in my Habit Box.
Okay.  At least now I know where I am.
The paint tastes bad in my mouth.  I grope for my tools.  Feebly I try gratitude.
Forget it, I’d rather scream and whine.  But . . .
Heck, it could be worse . . . I’m glad I have air in my lungs, I guess . . . I’m thankful for . . .

Slowly bits of appreciation open my constricted heart.  A few millimeters, widening. Breathing deeper.  Reconnecting, coming out of isolation. 
Releasing the perpetual old bone my teeth like to bite.

 Opening to gratitude.  Stepping out of the box.  Ahhhh – relief.

It always feels like a miracle, because it is.

So.  It’s none of my business, but — What throws you into your box?

  Do you want to avoid conflict at all costs, and go submissive in order to keep the peace? (Type 9, Peacemaker)

  Afraid of boredom, so you’re running super-busy? (Type 7, Adventurer)

  Do you have a constant urge to give to others, but they don’t reciprocate, and you feel burned-out? (Type 2, Giver)

  Does everything look a bit threatening and untrustworthy? So many things could go wrong, you have to analyze a lot. (Type 6, Loyal Skeptic)

  What if deep inside, we feel competitive, we cannot fail, so we overwork ourselves? (Type 3, Performer)

  Maybe we fear shortages and we withdraw, keep our distance, so we’ll have enough time, space, resources.  (Type 5, Observer)

  Perhaps our Achilles’ heel is that, wherever we look, people/things seem lacking or disappointing. Something is always missing. (Type 4, Romantic)

Thanks to Diane Stallings for allowing us to repost this article from her blog-Joystreamhealth on word press. 

Do we have some other types that would like to reflect on their type coming out of the box?  Send your story to Andrea Andress at andrea.andress@cox.net

Touching Essence: Grounded presence

Terry Saracino and Marion Gilbert presented an enneagram conference: Touching Essence:  Grounded presence with somatic wisdom of the types March 29-30 at Paradise Valley United Methodist Church, Paradise Valley Arizona.

It was hosted by the Arizona Enneagram Association (AEA) and attended by 86 individuals from around the country and one from Italy.

We had time for individual parings for discussion.

Carole Whittaker introduced the AEA Spiritual Freedom Intensive curriculum to the group.  The Intensive will be held May 8-12 at Picture Rocks Retreat center in Tucson.  It provides advanced work for Spiritual Freedom and materials to teach advanced classes with the enneagram.   

What the Law of Three Means to Me

by

Terry Favour

In November of 2013, the Sedona Enneagram Study Group met at Robin Cameron's as is usual on the third Saturday of every month. That Saturday we spent a great deal of time talking about, in Gurdjieff terminology, the Law of Three. The Law of Three, as I am speaking of it, says that for any two opposing forces there is always present a third but initially unmanifested force that is the synthesis of the opposing two. It seems that everywhere you go these days the "Law of Three" is coming up. My way of getting a handle on this is to start with the play of opposites. Everything that is known to us, is known to us, because it is in contrast to something else. Some age old examples are such sayings as "we can't know joy without sorrow", or "we can't know cold unless we know hot". If we look into this far enough we realize that our consciousness depends on contrast, on limits...on dualism. 

Often we speak about our plane of existence as being a dualistic plane. No wonder our lives often appear to be a series of problems. If you think about it you can see that every action (or non action) that we take plunges us into some kind of interaction that is ultimately dualistic. Our #6's are acutely aware of this dynamism. We do actually move through our lives from one problem to the next. But is this what we are really doing? The Law of Three demonstrates that there is really something else at work.

So let's turn to something else for a moment. Let's look at creativity. What I mean by creativity is this: It is that which emerges completely from the unknown. It is not a rearrangement of that which is known. It is something without precedence. 

 A further look at our consciousness reveals that although our consciousness is dependent on dualism to exist, it is a living system. Here is a good definition of a Living system:

The Living Systems Theory   

of James Grier Miller

By definition, living systems are open, self-organizing systems that have the special characteristics of life and interact with their environment. This takes place by means of information and material-energy exchanges.

Our consciousness is aware of being conscious, it is also aware of dualism. This is exemplified in our #6's kind of  "knowing". This means that within everything or every situation, there is its opposite, and therefore a potential problem. When that impasse arises, when the opposites manifest, if each side of the problem remains true to itself, no move can be made. No movement is possible. But, consciousness is a living system, it interacts with it's environment which includes not only the reality of manifest things but the underlying reality of the unmanifest which is where undifferentiated potential resides, the realm out of which creativity emerges. The Law of Three symbolizes this truth; dualism manifests "form" but not without the "emptiness" that underlies it. And this is LAW. Whenever opposites arise a third element ALWAYS arises too (sometimes unrecognized), which is the never before known solution emerging as true creativity from the unknown. This is, as we can see, a return to wholeness. BUT WAIT!  It divides again as it becomes manifest consciousness, therefore dualistic in nature...and the spiraling cycle continues. 

So, what does this mean? I would like to suggest that if we look closely at our human nature that we can see that almost nothing brings us more joy than the "ecstatic sensation" that accompanies the awareness that we have expanded. That we have conquered a limitation. That we have grown, that we have moved from a lesser reality to a greater one. I propose that this is a big part of what makes us cling so tenaciously to life. Even when we find ourselves deeply challenged by this "life"...we seem to choose expansion and consciousness, whatever the price.

“In the After Glow – Reflections on “Love, Spirit and Relationships” Part II with David Daniels and Russ Hudson

AEA December Blog – Robin Cameron – Part II

“In the After Glow – Reflections on “Love, Spirit and Relationships” with David Daniels and Russ Hudson

Interspersed throughout the Daniels/Hudson weekend were one-two-and three liners that themselves could be workshop-starters.  Here are my personal favorites:

When introduced to the Enneagram by Helen Palmer, I recognized the patterns that I already was discovering on my own.  DD

Early on, I discovered the typologies as what we do instead of being present.  I came to understand how my patterns take me out of myself, and how – when we meet those patterns with understanding, kindness, and presence – we don’t have to get rid of them but they transform.  RH

The hope for all of us is the personality becomes interwoven with the essential qualities, which allow us to live in the world relating with those higher qualities.  DD

We need to take in the implications of our patterns, which lead to the virtues and how we can stay awake to each other.  RH

The power of the Enneagram is enormous.  How do we live from presence, what does that require so that we become more whole?  That is what we are addressing.  DD  

The idea is to interrupt the fixations of these patterns so they can get to the real you.  It is not about fixing the other person!  RH

 Three basic aversive emotions are common to 100 million years of mammalian evolution: Anger (Rage), Distress (when you lose connection resulting in stress, pain, longing, shame), and Fear.  DD

We begin to understand our type is not our self.  We use our patterns and energy to manage the aversive emotions through distraction by reducing the frame of focus so we don’t notice something else; it shrinks down perception that was objectively overwhelming to us as kids.  It is good to know as adults where the volume control and on-off switch is.  RH

Personality tries to keep anger, distress, and fear away, thinking these things are wrong.  So we either amplify them or eliminate or run away from them.  The work is to get to what’s underneath.  DD

 So we learn ways to connect with ourselves to open up a field of awareness; we learn other ways of being with our aversive emotions.  RH

In life three great energies are always present – active, receptive and balancing/ reconciling energy.  In our modern life we go far away from receptive energy which is so necessary for presence and compassion. DD

When (our patterns are) running, our consciousness falls into narrowed-down, fixated, identified patterns and we’re caught in a dualized consciousness, which leads nowhere.  What the Enneagram teaches is the triadic pattern – that there is always a third component that drops out when we are not present.  The question then is what drops out when we’re stuck; and what drops back in when we are present?  Stasis is fantasy.  RH

We need good process with content, the 5 A’s:  DD (and RH)

Awareness – When we move out of the story into direct experience, we can work with our type’s pattern.

Acceptance – Operating from open heartedness in ourselves with grounded presence. 

Appreciation – When in our pattern and the conflict it produces, we feel no one appreciates us and feel put out.  The ego, wanting connection, creates more structure but not more connection.

Action – Action is where the content comes in through inquiry of the old no longer valid belief.

Adherence –  The hardest of all – the chance to practice and cultivate presence with devotion and regularity, to be awake to our reactivity, for the rest of our life.

The Law of 3 allows us to understand a different way of relating to ourselves out of stuckness.  When there is polarization within myself, if I can see/bring something else in, I soften and see the other differently.  Rigidity softens, I fall back into sacred mystery, sacred ground, and then the polarity softens from you/me to us.  And we’re opened to greater unity.  What we want to explore is how to do this in relationships.  Operationally!  RH

Riso’s rule/Hudson’s theory re what type is it best to be with?  Answer:  Healthy!  RH

The 3 centers (body, heart, mind) bring together three ingredients of presence:  sensation expands you out of your narrow view, the mind transforms, and the heart opens.  DD

Your direct experience is the only non-abstract thing here.  Everything else is an image in your head.  RH

In doing this work, the content is not complicated.  Self- observation is not thinking about the pattern but remembering to breathe etc. while the pattern is occurring!  DD

The more present we are the more there is neuroplasticity, and so more rewiring is possible.  Practice builds.  Befriending our reactivity is to invite presence back.  RH

Change the mind, change the brain.  The mind is relational. Patterns are reflected in the brain.  So that’s the hope of neurobiology.  DD

And coming fully circle – at the professionals’ meeting …

Owning our shadow stuff is how we take our place with each other.  This work can only go so far without a larger consciousness that includes forgiveness.  RH

The attribution theory says “My bad behavior is from circumstances.  Your bad behavior is because of your character!”  The problem goes from the individual all the way to the cold war. 

The foundation for Russ and me is that we have love and respect for each other.  We are fundamentally aligned.  DD

And so it was that for a memorable and historic weekend, we were called into that alignment and higher consciousness, with the invitation to this practice for the rest of our life. 

"In the After Glow" Reflections on time with David Daniels and Russ Hudson at "Love, Spirit and Relationships"

AEA December Blog – by Robin Cameron – Part I
“In the After Glow” – Reflections on “Love, Spirit and Relationships” with David Daniels and Russ Hudson

I felt immense gratitude as I experienced a new level of understanding through a score of profound moments at our recent Daniels/Hudson AEA workshop on Love, Spirit and Relationships. Many insights caught my attention, the panel work went to new depths, small group work was intimate, and the incredible choreography between David and Russ reflected their deep regard and respect for one another, which carried into all aspects of the weekend. Even the basics took me deeper as David and Russ danced off each other’s language, David’s from the narrative tradition and Russ’ from his insight approach.

When Russ said, “If we can’t take our place with one other, how are we going to move ahead on the planet,” I knew in that moment why I’ve been so drawn and devoted to the Enneagram. It’s not about “selling” the Enneagram; as he said, I’m drawn in because “it is a way of bringing people into self-observation, compassion, presence and awakening.” Bingo!

That was already clear in David’s introduction to the workshop. “This weekend is about the integration of interweaving the parts of our personality. We (David and Russ) are friends trying to walk our talk. We sometimes experience aspects of higher qualities, but when we interact, these higher aspects then dim. So how do we integrate them within the context of interaction? We’re here to learn with you through the panels and teaching.” So they did, and we were the beneficiaries. Indeed, they modeled all the principles they presented to us.

Panel work examined “peak experiences” and how we invoke the higher qualities when we are present; we were reminded with each type of the gift they bring. Jaye referred to this in her AEA Thanksgiving email with gratitude for the many ways AEA participants support our mission.

• 8s – when present – vulnerable – the 8 heart is empowered, alive, engaged, with an immediacy in the power of now, expressing/being truth, with innocence and presence fresh in the moment.
• 9s – when present – engaged – the 9 heart has the capacity to be, to be present, to land fully, whole, within themselves in unity of experience. Right action with the “engaged heart” leads to incredible power that allows us to be anything – through expansion, unity, and grounded being.
• 1s – when present – non-reactive and serene – the 1 heart has an unexplainable feeling of goodness in the world and self that calls the heart forth – aligned with integrity, felt as a sense of the sacred with an acceptance that brings the feeling of dignity, royal and regal.

• 2s – when present – with humility – the 2 heart recognizes that a different kind of relatedness is possible where love liberates through appreciation and gratitude. It is three-centered – grounded, curious and open-hearted toward the self and other, truly connected, even with a perfect stranger, holding a reality that doesn’t require another person and draws forth what is most supportive.
• 3s – when present – true to themselves – the 3 heart invokes a life infused with a sense of presence, their actions congruent with meaning as an expression of love – from a board meeting to mowing the lawn or walking the dog.
• 4s – when present – joined with Origin – the 4 heart learns who we are beyond the narrative, i.e. who we are right now! Knowing they are not their history, they accept the invitation into profound depth, mystery, intimacy, and beauty – the substance of who we are, the Beloved, who we are in essence, not disconnected but free from chronic disappointment.

• 5s – when present – non-attached – the 5 heart is clear, their senses more operational to awaken the mind, their consciousness clear and illuminated, seeing both the illusion of the patterns that obscure, understanding that the mind cannot hold direct experience, so that something else must!
• 6s – when present – courageous – the 6 heart has a certain quality of awakeness with a capacity to pay attention. This profound act of love, devotedness and mindfulness functions as another kind of knowing what to do and how to move forward with courage to live life powerfully.
• 7s – when present – constant – the 7 heart experiences causeless happiness and the sunlight shining through all kinds of weather. They are expansive, free, and joyful. No matter what may seem to be happening, the lights don’t go out, their flowering supported by deep roots. They make friends within themselves with whom or what can appreciate both the voice of yes and no.

During the panel work many of the highlights were true across the board, no matter the type:
   Opposites don’t know each other; the fallacy is that the one opposite will be lost, but that’s not true! If you feel rejected, give yourself a new job; take care of the inner wounded child! Ask yourself what arises to meet the different parts of you to hold it all lightly.
   Peak experiences are the direct experience of a deeper reality with elements of presence.
   The blessing is to work with our reactivity; i.e. when I feel disempowered in some way, which I then want to separate from! The Question: How can I be with that energy differently?
   When we are not present, the caring part of care drops out. It’s not that the action is wrong, but that there is something deeper that wants to be expressed. Question: What would make your relationship more fulfilling? There is a way of being with reaction that can feel into the virtue.
   When I breathe into alignment, it brings a force field! This is not about striving, but allowing the acceptance of vital energy. It is actively receptive!
    People come and go but Love does not! Kindness is the quality of attunement that draws forth what is most supportive. Without this quality we don’t trust enough to show up!
    Because we are made in the image of God, we seek to bestow; but since we are not precisely God, we can only give as we receive.
    Resistance comes from some historical data coming into your body. Chronic dissatisfaction is the result of longing, seeking in the wrong place. When you have a lot of pain, something important is not very far away. Anxiety, the future tense of fear, is around the edge of a breakthrough of some kind.
    Sometimes we try to be tender when we haven’t owned our anger. If we go through it, then we can be tender with grounded presence which allows the other to heal. We create space for the other to take responsibility for them.

Part II - will be a sharing of the memorable one-two-and-three liners that David and Russ said.  To be published next week.